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And They Lived Happily Ever-The End
How to Spot Signs of Cheating and Handle Infidelity
Last year has seen several celebrity romances going downhill, leaving fans around the world heartbroken and some could not believe in love any more. Does happily ever after really exist?
Life is not a romantic comedy.
We all know that, but believing in “happily ever after” gives us hope and something to look forward to in life. Seeing beloved celebrities becoming an item and eventually getting married strengthens this faith in love, that this tempting dream of finding the right one may come true, just like these actors and actresses.
The previous year, unfortunately, has seen quite a few love stories shattered, leaving fans all around the world heartbroken. From Hong Kong singer Andy Hui being exposed cheating on his superstar wife Sammi Cheng, to the Korean celebrity couple Song Joong-ki and Song Hye-kyo getting a divorce, to Chinese actress Fan Bing Bing announcing her split from her fiancé, Chinese actor Li Chen, the tragic ends of these romantic stories have crushed many fan’s hope that there is lasting true love.
Following these unlucky turn of events for celebrity romances, people have been expressing their thoughts about love and relationship on social media, with some lamenting that they could not believe in love any more. Although Sammi Cheng has reportedly forgiven Andy Hui for cheating on her with Hong Kong actress Jacqueline Wong (who is also Hong Kong actor Kenneth Ma’s girlfriend), many fans are left devastated as what was described as “the ultimate fairy tale in Hong Kong” has been ruined. Sammi Cheng and Andy Hui had been on and off in a relationship since 1991 and finally got engaged in 2013.
The Red Flags
Seeing beloved celebrities being cheated on feels really awful. Illusions of a perfect happily-ever-after are being torn down and we have to face our dirty laundry filled with jealousy, shame and infidelity. No matter how much you refuse to believe it, some people are capable of being unfaithful in a relationship, and no matter how hard you try, you can never exactly prevent being a victim of infidelity.
How do you know if your partner is cheating? Besides observing sudden change in habits, indifferent attitude, changes in your sex life, and if there is deliberate lying and avoidance from your partner, firing up a QiMen Chart could provide you hints if there is any secret affair going on. If you see the Bing丙 Stem or Ding丁 Stem appearing in your focal points in the Chart, this could be sign that something is up.
The Bing or Ding Stem can point you to relationship red flags in a QiMen Chart. If you prefer men, you should look out for the Ding Stem; if you’re interested in women, the Bing Stem should be in your checklist when reading the Chart for relationship issues. Depending what components are also found in the Palace containing Bing or Ding Stem in the Chart, this unsavoury affair could be a harmless fling or something more serious that could threaten your relationship. All in all, it boils down to how your partner feels about the third wheel and how both of you deal with this dirty laundry.
Own Your Happiness
After all, no man is perfect and it’s up to us to build a perfect relationship. Whether a relationship crumbles or becomes stronger after the cat is out of the bag, you hold the power of making the decision. There is no right or wrong. You could choose to walk away from someone who cheats on you. You could also choose to forgive and move forward together. A Bing or Ding Stem in your QiMen Chart is just a piece of information. How to handle this piece of information is up to you and you alone hold the key to your own happiness and to crafting your version of happily-ever-after.
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