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Maintaining A Long-Term Relationship
Qi Men Dun Jia can only help you to ascertain the outcome of a long-term relationship. Maintaining the relationship requires your own confidence and courage, coupled with several common sense tips, as the true strategic execution for success.
Many of us like to think that the hardest part of a relationship is the beginning. This is understandable because of the hard work one has to do to woo their respective partners. We tend to equate difficulty with hard work and expenditure; when the real difficulty is still somewhere further down the road.
Don’t think for a second that once that special someone agrees to start a relationship with you, everything will sail smoothly on automatic pilot. The longer the relationship progresses, the more challenges you will encounter.
Sometimes you may be wondering if it is worthwhile to invest your time and a large part of your life in a long-term relationship not knowing if you and your partner may remain faithful and committed to each other until you decide to get married, raise a family and spend the rest of your twilight years together.
Actually, QiMen Forecasting can be applied to determine if a relationship can be a long-term success and subsequently provide the foundation for a strong and happy marriage for both parties. In the QiMen chart you are forecasting from, just identify whether the Yi Noble 乙奇 and the Geng Metal stem are located together in a timely Palace; or in an auspicious structure.
Now that you’ve found out the relationship is going to be a success and will lead to an equally successful marriage, what you need to do is the actual hardest part of the relationship: maintaining it.
Successfully maintaining a long-term relationship is not an impossible thing. Like all things, if you are committed and passionate about it, you will prevail. Additionally, here are some simple but important tips that can be of great assistance to you in maintaining a long-term relationship.
1. Be Open to New Experiences
Couples often grow apart when they stop seeking new experiences. Try to share in our respective partners’ interests and do something new with them based on these interests. It will open up new horizons and break down the limitations we unconsciously imposed on one another.
2. Maintain your Individual Identity
Being in love with someone doesn’t necessarily mean getting lost in that love totally. We should not lose respect of our own identity. Maintaining a separateness instead of merging into something not ourselves enable us to appreciate each other more for the individual uniqueness that complement and support each other. This builds a better and longer lasting intimacy.
3. Create Moments of Joy and Excitement
Being able to laugh with and at one another indicates a very healthy relationship. The joy and sense of humour irons out any tension real or imagined. Openly showing your love for one another through your body language or with a simple “I love you” creates the same feeling of joy and excitement that should not be underestimated. It keeps the spark alive.
4. Be Openly Communicable and Generous
There should be complete openness and honesty in your communication with one another. Although this may be fairly obvious, many couples still fall into the same trap of keeping small initially harmless secrets from each other. An open communication helps build trust. It also makes it that much easier to show generosity and appreciation for each other; through simple gestures such as doing the dishes or a simple but meaningful gift on anniversaries.
Maintaining a long-term relationship is a good dress rehearsal for the eventual wedding day and the many days following it. If you can get use to each other’s proximity, quirks and shortcomings; a long and fruitful marriage is just a walk in the park. It requires a little courage, a little confidence and a large dose of common sense.
Qi Men Dun Jia can only help you predict the outcome; to make the outcome a reality ultimately requires your own decision and execution of that decision.
Now that we already recognized the essentials for maintaining a long-term relationship, let’s have some simple exercises to help acclimatize us with this month’s topic.
Q1. Which stem should we focus on in a QiMen Forecasting chart to determine if a long-term relationship can be successful?
Q2. According to the article, what is the hardest part of a relationship?
Nope!
Try Again!
Correct!
Wrong answer!
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